tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1658138279766595241.post3101320188731895199..comments2024-01-04T04:31:00.481-05:00Comments on Mixed Race America: Monday's Mixed-race MusingsJenniferhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13261371053113519712noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1658138279766595241.post-49511168095956064062008-07-09T00:35:00.000-04:002008-07-09T00:35:00.000-04:00I'm a product of an interracial marriage--Korean m...I'm a product of an interracial marriage--Korean mother and German father, married in the 1960s. As you can imagine, that marriage was not met with familial excitement! I consider it a real blessing to have parents who never had a preference concerning the race of my partner. <BR/><BR/>I'm now in an interracial marriage with mixed-race kids in rural Tennessee and we haven't encountered any problems. I don't belong to any sort of Asian-American community here so of course I don't feel any pressure there. One of the unexpected benefits of growing up and living in rural areas (as a minority/outsider) is that it's clear that it's not possible to only hang out with, date, or marry from your own group. <BR/><BR/>I just finished reading Michael Thomas's "Man Gone Down." It's a fine novel and discusses interracial marriage and mixed-race children openly and honestly.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08133640939884448056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1658138279766595241.post-42415149062532197482008-07-08T22:28:00.000-04:002008-07-08T22:28:00.000-04:00ecarson--thanks for leaving a comment and sharing ...ecarson--thanks for leaving a comment and sharing your personal observation about your own interracial relationship. I did want to ask for a bit of clarification--I wasn't sure what you mean when you wrote that:<BR/><BR/>"the two groups most opposed to such a union are white males and Asian men."<BR/><BR/>Opposed to which unions is my question?<BR/><BR/>I do think that Asian men, as CVT pointed out below, are more proprietary, potentially, of seeing Asian American women with men of other races--particularly white men. And as I alluded to in another post, I think part of it, deep down, has to do with anti-racist stuff--as in, feeling like Asian American women who "sell out" by dating white men are potentially turning their backs on not only culture but on an anti-racist agenda.<BR/><BR/>CVT, always a pleasure to have you comment on my blog and I do hope you get a lot of traffic on your own because I'm really enjoying your posts!Jenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13261371053113519712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1658138279766595241.post-44892700687721541792008-07-08T12:13:00.000-04:002008-07-08T12:13:00.000-04:00Jennifer - thanks for the plug.Obviously, I alread...Jennifer - thanks for the plug.<BR/><BR/>Obviously, I already wrote a whole lot on this matter on my blog, so I'll keep this short. But I agree that, in the end, it's doubtful that there are a lot of people that are consciously in interracial relationships for all the "wrong reasons" that people like to bring up on a regular basis. Race and stereotypes are more subtle, of course, but it's crazy to judge people on relationships we know nothing about.<BR/><BR/>@ecarson -<BR/>Hopefully, the lack of open criticism is simply because people accept your relationship, period. Of course, I can't be sure on that one. <BR/>As far as who would be opposed to your particular combination, I can't really speak to that, not knowing the race of your partner (I followed your link to your blog, so I am aware of your background). <BR/><BR/>I think it usually falls out that whoever feels like they "lost" a possible dating choice from their own race (in your case, black women) are the most opposed, or upset about interracial relationships. So, if your wife is Asian, then Asian men may be most opposed (leaving white men less involved, or vice versa). <BR/><BR/>It gets so much more complicated, but I'll just leave it at that - you are welcome to read my "On Interracial Dating" posts if you want more . . .CVThttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04097386572053924474noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1658138279766595241.post-28588069956549082572008-07-07T21:07:00.000-04:002008-07-07T21:07:00.000-04:00As one who is involved in an interracial marriage,...As one who is involved in an interracial marriage, I have found few in larger society to "openly" be critical of my relationship.... This is true of our family members too. <BR/><BR/>I have long heard that the two groups most opposed to such a union are white males and and Asian men.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com