tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1658138279766595241.post6843684548607894753..comments2024-01-04T04:31:00.481-05:00Comments on Mixed Race America: I'm glad I have a Chinese MomJenniferhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13261371053113519712noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1658138279766595241.post-65589273861698151802011-02-05T10:35:46.875-05:002011-02-05T10:35:46.875-05:00Hi everyone,
Thanks for leaving a comment--sorry I...Hi everyone,<br />Thanks for leaving a comment--sorry I have been so remiss/lax in responding. A colleague/friend of mine, Tim Yu, actually has what I think is the definitive excellent response to Chua's piece--I'm going to be blogging about it later in the week, but you can check it out here:<br /><br />http://tympan.blogspot.com/2011/02/paper-tiger-mother-on-amy-chua.html<br /><br />Finally, I just want to thank my Mom for chiming in with her own comment! After all, this post was dedicated to her, so Thanks Mom!Jenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13261371053113519712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1658138279766595241.post-51267374075006769752011-01-28T10:52:50.954-05:002011-01-28T10:52:50.954-05:00Jennifer, I'm so glad you posted about this (I...Jennifer, I'm so glad you posted about this (I was going to ask you about your thoughts on this, but I'm glad I checked your blog!). For exactly the reasons you mention, I'd been frustrated about all the media surrounding this--the return of these Asian/Chinese stereotypes and a lot of the divisions it's re-creating. Something also that I noticed made me uncomfortable were responses to Chua's book that were written by white authors because it gave me too much of a sense of a West vs. East kind of discussion, in contrast to other Asians responding to and disagreeing with Chua's book with which I felt more comfortable, and one of which I posted somewhere. I'd love to talk to you more about this, but just wanted to comment as soon as I read it!Jennifer Parkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00477897468336488236noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1658138279766595241.post-89897300924065278442011-01-24T12:23:04.370-05:002011-01-24T12:23:04.370-05:00Hot chocolate and donuts the next
morning after th...Hot chocolate and donuts the next<br />morning after the sleepover!Those<br />were some fun days even for me.<br />Love,<br />MomUnknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14213331301883750786noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1658138279766595241.post-77218586428926642732011-01-22T12:20:50.352-05:002011-01-22T12:20:50.352-05:00Great discourse analysis, Jen. I especially like ...Great discourse analysis, Jen. I especially like your point, though, about what other kinds of moms Chua's representation obscures. As Homi Bhabha reminds us, the main problem is not that stereotypes might be "positive" or "negative" but that stereotypes limit the range of possibilities.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15320259456014693774noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1658138279766595241.post-72331626543337826612011-01-21T01:04:12.235-05:002011-01-21T01:04:12.235-05:00ps. and it was a FUNNY essay! Why can nobody recog...ps. and it was a FUNNY essay! Why can nobody recognize that!? It was in large part deadly serious, but shot through with humour. Sheesh. America lacks humour. It's like that whole fuss about Ke$ha brushing her teeth with JD. It was a SONG, people! <br /><br />Also check this out -the Tiger Cub's response! http://www.nypost.com/p/entertainment/why_love_my_strict_chinese_mom_uUvfmLcA5eteY0u2KXt7hMMs. Foodiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16739856457728162296noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1658138279766595241.post-45608326424683127762011-01-21T00:55:31.321-05:002011-01-21T00:55:31.321-05:00I read the essay online and loved it! What a fierc...I read the essay online and loved it! What a fierce love she has for her children. And in every line of the essay you can see her agonizing over her choices to be the disciplinaran. How tempting to take the easy way out and just fall in with the mainstream! But she loves her children too much. <br /><br />Parenting choices are just that - choices. Brave and wonderful of her to lay herself out in the public like that. We need to hear these differing views of parenting - that's what living in a diverse society is all about. Let us hear the voices of all members of society and then take what we want from it. There are plenty of white parents who parent just like this but because they are a) white and b) white and c) don't write about it, nobody criticizes them. Just chew on that, my friends.<br /><br />Fabulous blog, by the way!Ms. Foodiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16739856457728162296noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1658138279766595241.post-11688282536352058972011-01-20T11:48:25.687-05:002011-01-20T11:48:25.687-05:00Regarding Chua's book, one has to wonder why s...Regarding Chua's book, one has to wonder why she wrote it at all when her parenting styles would bring such a backlash. She must have known that her parenting style is not the overall norm. Now I'm not saying that everyone parents laxly and gives into the child, no. I'm saying that almost no one parents like a tight fisted, iron willed, dictatorial person.<br /><br />But I can see how that instance can cast a stereotype or stereotypes on an entire community of parents. Is it right? No. Not all Asian parents parent like that. Your parents are a case in point.davidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01658591003292252448noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1658138279766595241.post-20304018564364575052011-01-20T02:29:44.080-05:002011-01-20T02:29:44.080-05:00I keep wishing I had the emotional energy to parti...I keep wishing I had the emotional energy to participate in this conversation, because part of me feels like it's really, really important, and there's so much nuance to be said and had and experienced - but the rest of me just wants to stay the hell away from the hot mess it's become, you know? And while part of it is certainly the difficulty of talking about parenting choices - mothering choices - within kyriarchy, that we're now also talking about stereotypes of hardass Asian parenting without necessarily making everyone aware that we're talking about them as stereotypes - again, within kyriarchy - it just seems like a conversation where everyone is pretty much going to lose.<br /><br />I'm willing to give Chua's book the benefit of the doubt, because whatever her experiences were/are in being mothered, othered, mothering another, they're voices to add to the discourse (not saying that all voices are equal, just that ime talk about mothering tends to be dominated by WASPs) and I value that.<br /><br />But still ...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com